Q & A with Jake Eagle, author of ReRight Your Life: An Introduction to Reology

I've been reading an interesting book this week from author Jake Eagle. I'll be sharing my thoughts on the book itself later today but as part of the virtual book tour, I also had the opportunity to ask Jake a few questions about the book, and Reology in general and I wanted to share those here with you. At the end of the interview I'll also be sharing details of a special offer for The Literary Word readers!

Now, on to the interview...

Why was it important to share some of your own personal life experiences in the book, ReRight Your Life?

One of the themes at the heart of Reology is being willing to openly reveal who we are. Reology makes this easier than some other models because if you step into the world of Reology you stop blaming or worrying about being blamed. This encourages people to be more open. I felt that since I was writing a book about being open and personally revealing, it was important for me to model what I was saying. This is why I shared several very personal life experiences.

How can people begin to apply Reology concepts to their lives?

This is really the point of my book—to help people get started applying Reology to their lives. Without reading the book I think it's hard to get started, but I would suggest three basic things. First, when you speak with other people, try to make it clear that you are only talking about your perspective. You are not telling other people about them or about the way the world is, you are only telling them the way things make sense to you. But, without knowing how to use ReSpeak, which is what my books is about, this is a challenging thing to do.

Second, if you're experiencing tension in your relationship with your partner, try talking only about what's happening right now, in this moment. There is so much energy wasted talking about who did what when, and disagreeing about what really happened. Just focus on NOW. What do you need NOW? What do you want to say NOW? How do you feel NOW? If people focus on what happening NOW, they are much more able to bring about change.

Third, when two people disagree it's just about impossible to have a conversation so I encourage just one person to speak about their concerns and feelings. And I always suggest the person who is the most upset should be the one to speak first. But the unique part of my suggestion is that I don't think the other person should have their say until several hours later, or even the next day. Just allow one person to be heard. Only when they feel heard and their concerns have been given some consideration, only then do we shift our focus to the other person.  

Do you have anything specific that you want to say to your readers?

Yes, the more responsibility you take for your life, the more freedom you will have. This may seem counter-intuitive, and I know people already feel like they have a lot of responsibility and they don't necessarily want more. But the ways I describe in my book that we can take responsibility for ourselves will make our lives easier, not more difficult.

Thank you Jake for taking the time to answer these questions, and for providing a special offer for the readers of The Literary Word.

Special Offer for readers of The Literary Word: 

If you'd like to check out a copy of ReRight Your Life: An Introduction to Reology by Jake Eagle, you can get a 50% discount on Reology.org if you enter the code LW50.